blame

REPORTING TO REMEMBER : I NEVER ASK FOR IT


Building evidence : Public memory



“Mobile phone culture, bad influence of western culture and indecent dressing sense among women as reasons behind rape” 
Uttar Pradesh Police, 
Source: IBN

“Mandatory for girl students to wear overcoats to prevent sexual crimes” .
Minister for Education , forests, electiricity, Puducherry, T Thiagarajan’s decision after the kidnapping and rape of a grade 12 student and an engineering student.
Source: Hindustan Times

“Why would a mother go to a nightclub?”
Transport Minister of WB (TMC), Madan Mitra’s response to Suzzette Jordan’s gangrape in Kolkata.
Source: The Hindu

“Women who cross their limits will pay the price.”
Member of Parliament and BJP leader , Kailash Vijayvargia
Source: India Today

“Rapes take place also because of a woman's clothes, her behavior and her presence at inappropriate places”
National Congress Party Leader, Asha Mirje
Source: Reuters

“Being gay is a mental disorder.”Bharatiya Janata Party member, Dr. Subramanian Swamy
Source: Deccan Chronicle


Reporting To Remember is a pledge to not forget incidents of sexual violence, that have been justified by individuals in power and authority. It takes the form collaborative, participatory, and open research project that archives incidents of gender based violence that have been excused, and therefore permitted. 

We are Reporting to Remember : incidents of sexual violence that have been justified and live in public collective memory. The Reporting To Remember project locates, collects and shares the number of incidents and cases of sexual violence that have been excused, hence allowed, across geographies and contexts.

To contribute to Reporting To Remember is to be part of a collective process of generating evidence. This could be in the form of statements, news reports, articles, blogposts and other public documents.

The Reporting To Remember project values inclusivity in its reports and urges you to share statements from various spaces and locations, and relating to multiple genders, orientations, identities, and intersections. This archive is a collaborative effort and will be publicly shared and sourced. 

*Reporting to Remember*  is a collaborative open archive project as part of the "I Never Ask For It" campaign. It is being facilitated by Blank Noise along with project partners and allies, i.e., you.

Do fill in this form, linking to documents, articles, or posts that you have come across in your contexts, communities and collective memories, that justify sexual violence. 

#ReportingToRemember. 
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Why are we so angry? And shocked ?

Disease? Daughters? Monster? Sickness ?


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 (Delhi rapist says victim shouldn't have fought back . That she should have been silent ... they would 'do her' and let her go. and only hit the boy. That they did it to teach her a lesson because she was out late with a man. 


YES , THE LIKELIHOOD OF HIM SAYING SO ISN'T VERY SURPRISING. nor shocking. maybe a reminder that sexual violence has long been justified, perpetuated, enabled  by our own attitudes that create an environment of victim blame.  
he's part of it. we're part of it. 
'THE FACE OF EVIL' LIVES IN ALL OF US.
in our court room, in the press, in the police stations, at home, in our mind, on the internet...
ML Sharma, the defence lawyer said "In our society, we never allow our girls to come out from the house after 6:30 or 7:30 or 8:30 in the evening with any unknown person," 
Javed Akhtar, Rajya Sabha MP on why we're angry. that the rapists attitudes have been shared, spoken and encouraged in the parliament itself. they know they think just like the rapist, and if this doesn't sound right, they should change their own mindset.

Nilanjana Roy : 

Indian women found their voice after the Delhi rape. Could this film help silence them again?


Video: Nirbhaya's parents talking to NDTV, along with the film maker Lesleee Udwin , Pinki Virani, Kiran Bedi,  Vani Tripathi

‘INDIA’S DAUGHTER’ IS NOT AN ACT OF GLOBAL SOLIDARITY - Vrinda Grover 
I think we need to take a position of engagement rather than posit it as a ban or no ban issue ( which to my mind is much more convenient but not necessarily helpful position).



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" Just because I'm slutty doesn't mean you can be dirty "

Can't ignore the echo. Something's stirring. Something's changing the scene as more of us from across the globe question and challenge the age old analysis for sexual harassment " she asked for it "
Blame is universal because its convenient. This attitude has only perpetuated the issue of sexual violence.

We repeat. 
No woman of any age colour or character ever deserves to be sexually harassed or violated. 
I Never Ask For It.

Applauding Action hero-ism spirit from Shanghai.

links:

To The Deputy Director of Tourism, Goa


“You can't blame the locals; they have never seen such women. Foreign tourists must maintain a certain degree of modesty in their clothing. Walking on the beaches half-naked is bound to titillate the senses,” New Delhi's Mail Today newspaper quoted Pamela Mascarhenas, Goa's deputy director of tourism, as saying Friday.

To the Deputy Director of Tourism, Goa
Pamela Mascarhenas,

By making the statement above you are blaming women instead of taking responsibility of the issue. If you believe a person's dress is culturally inappropriate, you may continue to believe so, but you cannot defend any act of violence. A person inappropriately dressed according to your idea of 'Indianness' does not deserve to be attacked, assaulted, molested, raped or even whistled at.

For your information, women from across age groups be it 3 month old babies of 90 year old have been raped. They have been raped in saris, burkhas, salwar kameez, school uniforms, bikinis, jeans, skirts, shirts,lungis. Women have been molested, assaulted, raped at all times of the day, and in public places.

We hope this will direct you towards taking responsibility of these incidents by actually addressing male behaviour and men in Goa, for which you will first have to address yourself by accepting this truth.

We have evidence even though we don't really need it.

No woman of any colour, dress , age, character deserves to be sexually violated or what some might lightly call 'eve teased'.

Thank you for your attention,
An Indian girl who loves her saris and her hot pants.

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I do not deserve to be violated because of what I wear: I NEVER ASK FOR IT.
We are having a clothes collection drive.

All Action Heroes will bring the garment worn at the time of experiencing street sexual harassment, street sexual intimidation, street sexual violence, or being 'eve-teased'.

All Action Heroes will come wearing a garment they've always wanted to wear but did not wear before .

All Action Heroes will be agents, and spread the word, * bring a friend, start collecting clothes as they read this.

*Action Heroes can be male too- we call them the BN guy- and yes all BN guys can contribute too. We want our BN guys to propose ideas via which men can be involved, addressed in the issue of street sexual harassment. All ideas will be published on the blog and followed up if you commit! Are you a BN guy yet?

A big thank you in advance for linking, tweeting, facebooking and making it happen.
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CLOTHES COLLECTION DRIVE DETAILS:

week 1
Saturday Feb 13. 2009
Sunday Feb 14. 2009
time: 4 pm- 6 pm
Bangalore: MG Road


week 2
Feb 20
Bangalore: Majestic

week 3
Feb 27
Delhi:

week 4
March 7
Calcutta/Bombay


More details coming up. Stay tuned.
e:blurtblanknoise @gmail.com for any thoughts, ideas, questions, suggestions

Link list:
Ramit
Ramit
Chanz
Little About
Vamban
India Talkies
Prokerala news
Sakshi
Mixx
Zetky

asking for 'what' ?





thank you Vignesh (from Dindugal) for sending us the link and also for directing us to more such film clips!

tamil to english translation coming up: anyone wants to volunteer to translate?

and Ramyah Veer from the BN Chennai mailing list has sent this in :

"The perpetrator apologises to the male actor for misbehaving with the actress.But the actor drags the culprit near the actress and makes him brush his hands against the actress's hands.The actor didn't stop with that.
I think it would be better if i explain the dialogue in direct voice.
The actor to the perpetrator:
"Are you satisfied with this or u want something else from her?Are u behind her skin,flesh?If this is all what you want, then go get it from a meat shop."
Now the actor takes a complete look at the actress(top to bottom) and starts his next set of dialogues
Between the actor and the actress:
Actor : I don't find any saree or innerskirt.You are just wearing a panty.
Actress: This is called 'shorts'.
Actor : For you girls it is 'shorts'.For us(men), it is a 'panty'...... Then I dont find any blouse or duppatta.You r just wearing a bra.
Actress:This is called 'Sleeveless'
Actor: For you girls it is 'Sleeveless'.For us, it is a 'bra'..... Wearing all these for letting enough air get into ur underarms or showing off the body piercing done on ur navel or a tattoo on ur thighs .... is this a product exhibition or body exhibition(i.e. show-off)?You girls wear dresses in a way that let others count the moles on ur body and then complain if a perpetrator touches ur body..... This has become a job for u all... Just know this. God created men for women and women for men...Main purpose is that a woman is for man's need and a man for woman's need.God has created all of us in huge but it is us who has to be disciplined.Disciplined in the sense being true to one person in ur life.If u feel that u want to live with only one man forever,then showoff to him alone.But if you showoff ur body to everyone,then every men will want/desire to live with you only.
(The crowd applauds the actor by making some comments)
Actor:If you dress like a traditional Indian woman wearing a saree with whole body covered up, then men will treat u more than a woman ... they will treat u like Godess Mahalakshmi....
The actor then ends the dialogue by asking her to leave in a contemptuous manner.
This is what the entire scene conveys .




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