Survivors of sexual violence, all women tell us:
" I feel safe when I am heard. I feel safe when I am not judged. I feel safe when I don't have to justify, defend, explain, defend, over and over and over again.
I, Action Hero, am your safe space, as you are mine."
The I Never Ask For It project is a long term mission, and commitment
to end victim blame and all attitudes that have long justified sexual violence as experienced across spaces, identities and geographies. It is built through ongoing efforts of Action Heroes, citizens, persons and women, since 2004.
Action Heroes bring or send in the clothes they wore when they experienced sexual violence. The garment is memory. witness. voice. These garments are being archived through a range of processes, including street interventions, campus interventions, exhibitions and workshops. By 2022, we envision, ten thousand garments standing together in sites of public significance. Each garment resonates I Never Ask For It.
We are motivated by the conversations it takes to build this project together. We are motivated by the healing it could offer.
Blame permeates across spaces and identities experiencing violence.
To be told, " you made me lose my temper" - Domestic Violence / To be punished for being queer or outside of the gender binary /To be denied access to justice for being a sex worker who wants to report sexual assault / To being murdered in the name of family honour./ To own the right to the length of hair, or skirt. There is no excuse for sexual violence. The I Never Ask For It project is envisioned to be built by multiple collaborations and alliances.
The I Never Ask For It is informed and built through multiple processes, campaigns, and sustained engagement in the form of street interventions, workshops, research, with communities, partners, allies, and citizens/ persons as Action Heroes. We look forward to hearing from you, and to working on this mission together.