The I Never Ask For It mission is led through Listening Circles and workshops.

Workshop participants bring in garments they wore when they experienced sexual violence. I Never Ask For It workshops co create a safe space for shifting knowing blame to experiencing empathy.

A Workshop is built on the process of co creating a safe space to listen in, and heal. Workshop participants or Action Sheroes, examine the relationship of fear, warnings and blame.


The I Never Ask For It mission has grown from noticing an invisible issue of victim blame (2004), to making it visible over the years. In its current and ongoing stage, Blank Noise works with communities to create circles of listening towards experiencing empathy, to build I Never Ask For It. Listening Circles are audio recorded and will be made available via a podcast series. 

Listening Circle no. 125th Sept - 1st Oct 2016
Bangalore, India, Max Mueller Bhavan I Never Ask For It Week

Listening Circle no. 2: 2nd February 2017,
Montreal, Canada, Studio XX  

Listening Circle no. 3: 2 January 2018
Kolkata, India ,Lakes.

Listening Circle no. 4: 21st January 2018
Bangalore, India, Cubbon Park

Listening Circle no. 5: September 2018 
Jamshedpur, Jharkhand India with CREA and SELF Academy  

Listening Circle no. 6: 28th October, 2018
Bangalore, India, Cubbon Park


Upcoming Listening Circles:

Listening Circle No.7 + I Never Ask For It workshop on November 7th, 2018 Montreal , Canada with Mc Gill University and Studio XX.


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TESTIMONIALS FROM LISTENING CIRCLE NO.6
Bangalore, October 29th, 2018

 Listen. To know you are not alone. Listen. To shift from knowing blame to knowing empathy. We Are Done Defending. Sit in to  Listen  this Sunday, October 28th, 2018, in Bangalore. Time: 2 pm- 5 pm Location: Cubbon Park, Bangalore .  Survivors of violence, each of us in varying degrees echo, that we feel safe when we are heard, we feel safe when we are believed. We feel safe when we do not have to defend ourselves, over and over again. I Action Shero, am your safe space, as you are mine. #INeverAskForIt.  Listen, also invites participants to bring in the garment they wore when they experienced sexual assault, threat, abuse, intimidation, or discrimination. The garment is memory, witness, voice. It resonates " I Never Ask For It ". Bring your garment to build the I Never Ask For It mission.  #INeverAskForIt # MeToo #TimesUp #AkeliAwaaraAzaad #WalkAloneTogether

Listen. To know you are not alone.
Listen. To shift from knowing blame to knowing empathy.
We Are Done Defending.
Sit in to Listen this Sunday, October 28th, 2018, in Bangalore. Time: 2 pm- 5 pm Location: Cubbon Park, Bangalore .

Survivors of violence, each of us in varying degrees echo, that we feel safe when we are heard, we feel safe when we are believed. We feel safe when we do not have to defend ourselves, over and over again. I Action Shero, am your safe space, as you are mine. #INeverAskForIt.

Listen, also invites participants to bring in the garment they wore when they experienced sexual assault, threat, abuse, intimidation, or discrimination. The garment is memory, witness, voice. It resonates " I Never Ask For It ". Bring your garment to build the I Never Ask For It mission.

#INeverAskForIt # MeToo #TimesUp #AkeliAwaaraAzaad #WalkAloneTogether


Cubbon Park never seemed as beautiful and warm as it did on January 22nd, 2018. Sorry not sorry for romanticizing this meet because it truly was a beautiful experience to me. Funny enough, I heard about the safe space meet from a colleague who insisted that I cover this story and so I did. Walked into Cubbon Park, with my mic and camera person, all set to take the interviews, stay for a bit and head back to office. But what followed, really hit home. For the longest time, I’ve had an abusive father who would and still continues to blurt out abuses on the lines of prostitution and rape to me, for merely bunking a class, or coming back home late from WORK, yes WORK. I dealt with it or rather let myself into being submissive for 23 years of my life. But from a few days before I had come for this meet, I had started to hit my threshold of tolerance and had decided that I would soon HAVE to move out of home to have a sane mental space for myself. During the course of the meet at Cubbon Park, I began to hear the experiences the women there had faced and it brought back every abuse that was hurled at me, for no fault of mine. It started to kick-in when everyone around me at the meet reiterated the fact that they never asked for it and that it was in NO WAY our fault. If you were at the meet, you would recall me breaking into an episode of ugly crying the minute Jasmeen asked me if there was anything I had to share. It hurt every piece of me that I was allowing myself to live in that hell hole and go through abuse time and again. Thanks to all the women who courageously came in that evening and share your experiences, without which I would have still been in abuse land with my father. After that meet, I left with every part of me itching to leave home, and so I did. What made it easier? I had stayed on for longer than my curfew, making me late to reach home and that lit the abusive side of my father once again but for the last time. I went home, sat him down and told him that I was NOT going to put myself through this anymore. Packed my stuff, argued my way through my stubborn father and brother and left home, with 7-8 bags on me. And I have never looked back ever since. I now live with a roommate who I met at that meet and we live our very own triple A (Akeli Awaara Azaad) lives, and I will do so for as long as I live. Thank you Blank Noise for giving me my happily ever after. I will forever be grateful.
— Action Shero Roshni