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Inderjit Kaur- in solidarity with One Billion Rising



 My name is Inderjit Kaur. I am from Burma, Mogok. I live in Calcutta now. I am 81 years of age. I want to tell you my story. I was about seven years old when WW2 occurred in Burma and the rest of the world. The Japanese military had already reached Rangoon. The roads had been blocked. Air and ship routes had also been blocked.  Every road had been blocked. My father said that women, girls and children were more in threat of the army attack. The military can 'force' themselves (zabardasti for  sexual violation and rape). My father feared that the military would attack Mogok very soon and insisted that we left our town that very night. He was afraid we might not be able to escape if we delayed. That same night our beds were packed, we were put in car and we reached Mandalay.  We were a group of hundred. There were mostly women and children. The men stayed back in Mogok but some came with us. My father got left behind. We reached Mandalay and got on bullock carts. We were on the bullock carts for 15 days - going through jungles. Then we got onto the boats. We crossed the Brahmaputra river. Then we walked over the mountains and hills. Then we got the train to Lahore.
I studied in Lahore for two - three years.  (pause)

Then I moved to Sargoda in Chaoni and got admission to a new institution. I had a friend there. Her name is Mauzabeen. We used to go to school together.

She would often tell me " We wont take this route. let's go this way. "
I would ask "why?"
She would say " no. the boys tease/ harass on this road"

We have seen lots. This shouldn't happen. Girls should be given freedom to roam and wander.
I have thought of this and that's why I support One Billion Rising.
You must join in as well. The violence in this world has to stop. We must end it.








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TO HIT BACK OR NOT TO HIT BACK: "Street Weapons" and Violent Self-Defense

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These are just some of the "weapons" used by women to make themselves feel safer in public spaces. Most of the objects listed above are not weapons in the conventional sense. However these are used by a number of women all over the world to give them some sense of security.

:Can they be and should they be used as "weapons" of self defense?

:Is it ok to use pepper spray on someone who is harassing you?

:Would you use the pepper spray if he groped you breast once. Or would you only use the spray if you feel there is a chance of you being raped or murdered?

:What does SELF DEFENSE mean?

:Is it ok to hit back if someone hits you first? if he gropes you?

:If he may be likely to rape you is it ok to shoot him with a gun?

 

A few months ago Blank Noise initiated a discussion on facebook- "The museum of street weapons" to share and think through the things women use to make themselves feel safer in public spaces. This led to a number of number of questions regarding the legitimacy of violence as a form of self defense, and individual reactions to harassment being raised.

A lot has been thought and said about reactions to harassment, and how a lot of times our reactions serve as our defense to the act. With specific regard to violent self defense I feel it is important for us to think through certain issues.

Accepting violence as a legitimate response to harassment I feel faces the risk and possibly inevitable consequence of "naturalising" violent self defense to an extent where it is made possible to shift the blame for violence against women away from the people who perpetuate it and make prevention the responsibility of the female victim. Not very unlike "cautioning" women to dress properly and not go out at night in order to prevent harassment.

Accepting violent self defense as "the" way to solve the problem of harassment may also result in expecting women to be trained in wenlido/karate or carry pepper sprays/safety pins around with them to protect themselves. This again could very well be extended to courtroom where the defense may argue that if a rape-survivor didn't really want it she would have fought harder (since women may be expected to know violent self defense in order to protect themselves). (J. Lynch)

[And this is apart from the fact that something like a pepper spray- the empowered urban woman's must-have can be as or more easily used against her/by men as a tool of harassment as it can be used by a woman as a tool of self defense]

Feminists like Martha McCoughey(Real Knockouts) argue that self defense training for women is essential as it serves to "rescript" the body and abolish the identity of women as the "weaker" sex, and this would not only deter potential rapists and batterers, but also move feminism away from its victim orientation. I do acknowledge the importance of challenging notions women have about their capacity for physical strength, anger, and violence and also the fact that self defense may result in women no longer being perceived and perceiving themselves as physically weaker and hence inherently/biologically different from men.

However, are we willing to accept that if a woman chooses not to learn self defense techniques, she is in some way morally responsible for the violence committed against her?

Violent self defense should definitely not be the primary response to the problem of sexual harassment, but should it be a response at all?